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Seminar on Sex Addiction with Karen Lloyd, 18 June 2016

Karen Lloyd, an accredited psychosexual psychotherapist and certified sexual addiction therapist, gave us a full day of insight and knowledge on the quite misunderstood and challenging subject of sex addiction.

Karen Lloyd with Wendy Bramham

Karen Lloyd with Wendy Bramham

We learnt that people with sexual addiction do not have fun, that it is not related to a sexual orientation, neither is it connected to sexual fetishes or paraphilias. Sexual addiction is not the same as sexual offending.

We thought about the many words we might use to describe a person with sexual addiction problems and that they are mostly negative. Shame is the most acutely felt emotion and trained therapists work mainly with supporting and helping their clients to manage their feelings of shame.

Karen helped us to understand how she and her fellow trained therapists work with clients and gave us lots of detail on the complexities of working in this specialist field. It is a “process addiction” and the primary driver for sexual addicts is for mood altering purposes. We thought about some similarities in how alcohol addiction is now managed, for example providing support groups as a powerful and effective technique.

Karen spent the 2nd half of the day focusing on how she and her colleagues help the partner of a sexual addict and how isolating and shameful the discovery of a partner’s sexual addiction can be.Seminar sex addiction 2016

The seminar was interactive and well paced, packed with information and insight and very much a taster of how to work with this very challenging subject.

By : Jo Turner, June 2016

We are pleased with the delegates’ average feedback scores as follows:
Overall assessment of event: 4.89 out of 5
Speaker: 4.5 out of 5
Value for money: 4.89 out of 5

Comments from delegates:
“Fantastic delivery of the course by Karen, very insightful and interesting”
“Excellent value”
“Karen’s experience, warmth and knowledge made it easy to engage and enjoy the seminar”
“Very relaxed, intimate and cosy to share”

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Working with Depression, led by Gill Bannister – 26th September 2015

On a clear, sunny autumnal Saturday last week, I was treated to a full day’s seminar on depression… the conflict of light and dark didn’t pass by un-noticed and in fact resulted in a feeling of optimism and lightness – a surprise considering the darkness and negativity of the topic.    Gill Bannister delivered her seminar with feeling and containment – two very important aspects of a therapist’s role when working with clients with depression.

Gill’s 30 years experience as a psychoanalytic psychotherapist working with depression in clients was delivered in a style in keeping with her classic training, enabling us to have time and space to think, to sit with ourselves and our difficult thoughts and feelings, allowing a process to occur.   Gill believes that depression is a result of a client experiencing loss.   The depressed client suffers from a lack of self esteem, often projecting a super-ego which is rejecting, despising and attacking.

The experiential element of the seminar was invaluable, thinking and sharing thoughts, Gill challenged us to confront our own assumptions, experiences and prejudices around depression.  A word which is now loaded with a vast array of interpretation and stigma.    We were guided through the day with exercises and discussion which enabled us to experience the core essence of working with depression in the therapeutic room – trying to get in touch with our client’s inner world.  By experiencing a 30 minute solo role play, I felt more connected and understanding of my client’s depression than I had done before and will be processing and using these insights future sessions with this particular client.

An enlightenment of depression…. most valuable.

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by: Jo Turner

29 September 2015

This seminar was assessed by attendees as 4.69 out of 5 for the overall quality of the event. The speaker was rated 4.75. Thank you to all who attended this and previous seminars, we appreciate your participation and your feedback.

Unlocking the Secrets of Dreams” with Matthew Harwood, Nov 2014

This seminar was akin to being in the theatre watching an absorbing drama unfold!  Matthew Harwood treated us to a fascinating and crystal-clear presentation of how he worked with a former client’s particular dream to help the client free himself from outmoded attitudes and a long-standing depression.

We learned that it is possible for just one sentence of a dream to provoke an hour’s worth of investigation and produce a powerful “aha” moment of insight that can create profound change at a cellular level. Like adding a drop of wine to water, we remain changed forever.

Science tells us that we all dream for about two hours per night, whether or not we remember our dreams. Dreams produce words and images that are metaphors ….. they are direct messages from our unconscious that can “compensate” for, and illuminate, our conscious (often unbalanced) attitudes.  Depression can often signify a fear of living, but when we remember a dream it is a sign that we are ready for change, and to have the courage to live.  By asking the right sorts of questions which enable the client to give descriptive definitions (prior to their associations) of the objects, characters and places in their dreams, Matthew showed us that it is possible to unlock their central dilemma and blind spots.

In the words of Carl Jung:

In each of us there is another whom we do not know. He speaks to us in our dreams and tells us how differently he sees us from the way we see ourselves. [CG Jung: Collected Works Vol 10 para 325]

It was wonderful to learn how to work in such a creative way with our clients.

Wendy Bramham
25/11/14

Sir Richard Bowlby – “a rare and special opportunity” in 2014

Rachel Cooper, psychotherapist at Wendy Bramham Therapy in Newbury, reviews our recent day on attachment theory with Sir Richard Bowlby:

“Hearing Sir Richard speak at the recent Wendy Bramham seminar in Newbury felt a rare and special opportunity to get up close and personal with his father, Sir John Bowlby’s, pioneering work.

Richard highlighted the significance of attachment theory by taking us back to the fright we each felt when we got lost (and separated from our caregiver) as a child, even though we were not in any danger; caused by the terror of separation from an attachment figure. He also reminded us of its ongoing impact on all relationships held as adults and explained how he himself developed a secure attachment as an adult through his relationship with his wife.

Sir Richard Bowlby and Wendy BramhamSir Richard with Wendy Bramham

Richard provided an updated slant with research and views, sparking stimulating debates that ranged from the science of epigenetics to the art of using attachment theory creatively and individually within psychotherapy. Also the despair caused by the lack of influence of attachment theory on politician’s agenda within schooling, versus the hope from a psychotherapist providing a reliable, responsive, helpful and empathic secure base from which clients can begin to explore in a way that has previously been too scary. I loved Richard’s description of a psychotherapist being, “someone to hold our hand while we go into scary places”.

Richard was such an engaging speaker through his warm, humorous and down to earth style. His sharing of personal experiences with his upbringing and own family really brought the theory to life. A really engaging, enlightening and informative event.”

newburytherapy.com/rachel-cooper-therapist-newbury.php

Attachment Theory – “The Science of Love”

Sir Richard Bowlby and Wendy Bramham

Sir Richard Bowlby and Wendy Bramham

 

Our public lecture and discussion on Attachment Theory on 7 November 2014 was a fantastic opportunity, here in Newbury, to gain Sir Richard Bowlby’s insight into his father John Bowlby’s famous life and work. 

 

 

 

 

Over 100 people attended the lecture, ranging from A level psychology students and teachers of children with learning difficulties to experienced counsellors, psychotherapists and complementary health practitioners.

John Bowlby was a medically trained doctor, psychoanalyst and psychologist, and was motivated 50 years ago to research and develop “Attachment Theory” in part because of his own losses in childhood – namely that of his nanny when he was 4 and then at age 8 attending boarding school.  This theory has since been a very important way of understanding what babies and small children need if they are to develop good mental health.  It has been – and still is –  a major feature of any psychology training in the UK.

Sir Richard Bowlby, internationally renowned for the lectures he gives about his father’s work, presented this topic in an engaging way.  He told our audience that Attachment Theory is the “science of love”.  It is what many of us know instinctively if we ourselves were able to form a secure attachment to a primary carer (such as mum) in early childhood.  This would happen for example if our parent responded to our emotions (fear, joy) in a reasonably attuned, consistent, predictable and frequent manner.  Sounds easy?  And yet statistics show that 40% of people in the UK are “insecurely attached”.  This might take the form of clinging to avoid any loss, or alternatively avoidance of attachments in the first place.

From 71 completed feedback forms from participants we scored an average rating of 4.48 out of 5 for overall assessment of the event.   Sir Richard Bowlby received 4.71 out of 5 as a speaker.  Fabulous scores!  Comments include:

“Fantastic opportunity, a very positive experience”
“With this knowledge I can help others in some small way”
“Fascinating and enlightening… really helped me for my work”
“Interesting subject – good to hear this from John Bowlby’s son”
“A charming and heartwarming man to listen to”
“Excellent speaker, very engaging”
“Wish I had learned this before I had children”

The first 20 minutes of this lecture can be viewed on our Youtube channel:

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Wendy Bramham
12 November 2014

Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy – DIT: Seminar feedback, September 2014

At our seminar on Saturday Beni Woolmer presented a rich and stimulating presentation on DIT – a 16 week model of psychodynamic therapy, now used widely in the NHS for depression and anxiety.  It is great news that the medical profession are learning more widely about therapies in addition to CBT!  I personally have researched, learned about and used in my practice many different models of therapy over the past 20 years and I return over and over again to psychodynamic theory as incisive… and possibly the hardest to learn and use well as a practitioner.
DIT offers an intensive therapy that is highly focussed and structured.  It can illuminate how symptoms, interpersonal functioning, mood and behaviour can be driven by unconscious (and unexamined) psychic patterns.  In our seminar Beni – very capably and with great knowledge and experience – taught us how DIT develops a very focused strategy to help the client learn about and modify one central interpersonal problem which might be causing symptoms such as depression or anxiety. DIT helps the client think differently about themselves (their self image and their feelings/thought)s as well as how they view others, and to modify their interpersonal behaviour. The therapy aims to help clients become aware of his/her fears relating to unconscious feelings and feared consequences of change, and how s/he unconsciously manages these fears.
DIT is not suitable for all clients, and can be demanding for the client as well as the therapist. We learned about criteria for assessment, eg the client’s ability to be reflective (including his/her relationship with the therapist) and to tolerate a degree of mental pain.
We are delighted to have received very positive feedback from this seminar, with an average score from all participants of 4.75 out of 5 for the speaker, and 4.6 out of 5 as an overall assessment of the event. A big thank you to all who participated.
Our next event with William Bloom is sold old, but there are still tickets available for our day with Sir Richard Bowlby on Attachment Theory on 7 November in Newbury. See our website for more details: newburytherapy.com
Wendy Bramham
September 2014
Recommended reading:
Brief Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy: A Clinician’s Guide
by Alessandra Lemma, Mary Target and Peter Fonagy
Oxford University Press, 2011